The Choice To Choose or Not To !

At the crack of dawn, the clouds illuminated a magnificent warm light. The sweet chirping of the birds, the soft tinkling of the wind chimes and the fresh scent of the air woke up Ananya that morning. But she wasn’t too happy about it. She laid her eyes on the calendar and started counting the days again – two weeks and three days had passed by now.

She didn’t want to be the first one to call up Rishi. After all, he hadn’t yet called her back after their last rendezvous as he had promised. She wanted to talk to Rishi since the day they met for the last time. She wanted to speak her heart out. She could now feel the pangs of anxiety running down her, so after much deliberation she decided to go for a walk.

The evening air was cold and refreshing, and she walked rapidly to keep herself warm. While walking on the walking track, amidst the headlights of the numerous cars that zipped by, she spotted an almost invisible van of the ice-cream man. As she noticed the van, she stopped by and crossed the road hastily, she thought to herself, “Today is the perfect day to treat myself to a guava ice-cream.” She asked the ice-cream man to give her a guava ice-cream in a chocolate dipped waffle cone, but to her surprise he was out of her favorite flavor. Dejected by it, Ananya cursed and ordered a butterscotch ice-cream. While finishing the last bite of the unlikable flavored ice-cream she thought to herself, “Damn! The guava flavor is so much better.”

“We always have choices and sometimes it's only a choice of attitude.”

If you like somebody and vice versa, why would you wait for that person to call or text you? Why not make the first move and take it forward. Is the ego more important or the person? Does it even matter, as to who called whom first?

Sometimes, we have to put in extra efforts to make something happen rather than doing nothing about it and let it break up even before it could start. Waiting for things to happen and pondering about why it didn’t happen, won’t take you anywhere. Also, life is too short to wait for things to happen instead take charge of it and make it happen.

There are many such Ananya and Rishi amongst us who are battling with the same dilemma time and again.

Not everyone is fortunate enough to have somebody special in their life. So, drop that ego, grab your phone and take it forward from there and you might as well find out why they couldn’t call back so you don't have to waste any more time obsessing over why they didn't reciprocate. Also, you'll be satisfied since you chose to do your part by making the choice.

“Whatever you choose, you might as well enjoy it. After all, it was your choice.”

Many a times, something that is a privilege for someone might turn out to be a restriction for another person. Just as Ananya had a choice to eat another flavored ice-cream a cancer patient might not have that choice. She chose the butterscotch flavor, it wasn’t mandatory to have ice-cream. In fact, she could have avoided making the choice of another flavored ice-cream rather than showing her dislike towards it and still having it.

Well, life may not be fair but it gives us the choice…the choice to whine or be grateful about, the choice to feel fortunate or miserable about, why not choose while we can?

“If you were given only one choice: To choose or not to choose, which one you would choose?”

True Love

What’s true love? How do we define it? Is there any particular definition of true love? Does true love exist? We quite often come across this question or at times ponder about it. Until sometime back even I had no clue about its definition but  few days ago I found this article called "True Love" while having sukha bhel in Mumbai’s local and now I really don’t need any definition for true love because now I know what true love is and can be!


Nurse: “It was a busy morning, approximately 8:30 am, when an elderly gentleman, in his 80’s, presented to have stitches removed from his thumb. He stated that he was in a hurry as he had an appointment at 9:00 am. I (nurse) took his vital signs and had him take a seat, knowing it would be over an hour before someone would to able to see him.
I saw him looking at his watch and decided, since I was not busy with another patient, I would evaluate his wound. On examining it I found out it was well healed, so I spoke to one of the doctors, got the needed supplies to remove his stitches and redress his wound.
While taking care of his wound, we began to engage in conversation. I asked him if he had a doctor’s appointment this morning somewhere else, as he was in such a hurry. The gentleman told me no, that he needed to go to the nursing home to eat breakfast with his wife.
I then inquired as to her health. He told me that she had been there for a while and she was a victim of Alzheimer disease. As we spoke and I finished dressing his wound, I asked, if she would be worried if he was a bit late. He replied that she no longer knew who he was, that she had not recognized him in five years now.
I was surprised, and asked him. “And you are still going every morning, even though she doesn’t know who you are?” He smiled as he patted my hand and said. “She doesn’t know me, but I still know who she is.” I had to hold back tears as he left, I had goose bumps on my arm, and thought, “That is the kind of love I want in my life.”


The above instance conveys a message, a message that we can hold onto for our entire life without any second thoughts.

True love is neither physical, romantic nor restricted to one’s beauty too but true love is an acceptance of all that is, has been, will be, and will not be. ---  Holy Prophet Muhammad 

Do you love someone to this extent? :)